My Inner Toddler: Part 1

My toddler has given me an unexpected gift: the realization that I myself am a toddler. If I imagine that the way I look at my toddler’s actions is the same way Heavenly Father looks at my actions, somehow it’s much easier to be at peace with my shortcomings and to love myself. Plus the…

Motherhood: Nothing Can Prepare You . . . for How Wonderful It Is

One cannot remember mother and forget God. —Thomas S. Monson I always knew that nothing could truly prepare me for motherhood. But I always interpreted that to mean nothing could prepare me for how hard it is. On the contrary, it’s easy to prepare for how hard it is, but not so easy to prepare…

Developing Christlike Attributes: The Virtue Paradox

Lao-tzu, a Chinese philosopher and the founder of Taoism, proposed a phenomenon called the “paradox of virtue,” suggesting that when we consciously strive to become more virtuous, we actually diminish our virtue. For example, if we serve others because we want “to be a good person” then our motives are not truly selfless, and therefore…

Gratitude in Advance

“‘To know something is not as good as loving it; to love something is not as good as rejoicing in it.” —Confucius When I read this quote from Confucius, it made me pause. His first point, “to know something is not as good as loving it,” seems like a no-brainer; any normal person would agree that…

Replace “Balance” with “Harmony”

What comes to mind when you think of “balance?” A set of scales with a pair of weights at equilibrium? A tightrope walker strutting down a nearly-invisible wire? A juggler keeping multiple objects in constant motion? Well, I don’t know about you, but I can’t juggle. I can’t tightrope walk. And I certainly can’t give…

Your “As You Wish”

Do I tell my loved ones often enough that I love them?  Well, that depends.  Perhaps a better question to ask is “When am I really saying ‘I love you’?” The message that you love someone is almost never conveyed in the moment of saying the actual words “I love you.”  So when and how…

Reach and Receive

”The challenge of the time in which we live is no longer how much pain we can endure, but how big we can dream, how much joy we can hold, and how long we will let it be that way?”-Carol Tuttle, Remembering Wholeness A more joyful life is within our immediate reach, but too often…

Eyes that Hear

I want to take you on a journey . . . Imagine you move to another planet.  On this planet, there are other human beings almost exactly like you.  They look like you, and they hear, see, smell, taste, and touch as you do.  There is only one difference.  These other human beings have a…

Stable in the Stable

When I was a child, I designed and created this plastic-canvas nativity set for my mother.  Like many nativity scenes, the figures in this set look so pristine and comfortable.  But the reality was probably anything but comfortable.  When we describe the Christmas story, we use special, holy-sounding words like “stable,” “swaddling clothes,” and “manger,”…

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1. Meaning of “Journey In The Joy” This post explains the difference between joy and happiness as well as the difference between having joy in the journey and having journey in the joy: Post 1 2. Analysis Paralysis Analysis Paralysis is when you’re so stressed about saying ”the perfect thing” that you can’t say anything at all. …